Initially, Cancer may be charmed by Sagittarius’s grand romantic gestures. Seizing the day, the archer may aim his bow at the brightest star in the velvet sky and bring it down for Cancer.
Sag does this with the kind of charisma and finesse few other signs could pull off. However, once they start getting to know each other, their differences become glaringly apparent.
EMOTIONS AND VALUES
It’s likely that Sagittarius’s grand romantic gestures are lighthearted, at least in the beginning. Nothing about Cancer suggests that he/she is an emotional lightweight if one is looking closely enough. The trouble is, Sag is probably not paying enough attention to see the faint mist of tears in Cancer’s eyes when she holds the star in her hands.
To Cancer, who values emotional security above everything except love, romance implies commitment. Cancer lives inside the depth of her emotions. Jupiter’s rulership makes Sagittarius an expansive soul who is always looking to arrive on new frontiers, explore new philosophies, and have new experiences.
If you Google the term “free spirit”, you’ll find a picture of a Sagittarius. (Okay, you won’t, but it really should be the case.) Jupiter’s rulership endows Sagittarians of both sexes with larger-than-life personalities who value freedom above almost all else.
However, Sagittarians are so warm-hearted, kind, and charitable that many Cancers fall for them despite their very different emotional makeups.
COMPATIBILITY RATING: 3 OUT OF 10
Sagittarius is infamous for bluntly conveying plain truths and prides himself on this. His candid commentary, arced with as much precision as a bow and arrow, pierces Cancer where it hurts.
When this inevitably happens in Cancer/Sagittarius friendships, Cancer will feel much better if he/she understands that Sagittarius’s intentions are usually good. (Of course, there are always those people born under any sun sign whose intentions aren’t inherently good, but we’re talking about the typical gentle giant Sag personality.) Sagittarians don’t mean to hurt Cancers’ feelings; they’re just blatantly honest and not tuned in to Cancer’s deep emotional sensitivity.
These two are vibrating at different frequencies. Sag is always looking outward for sources of fulfillment, and Cancer is living in her emotional depth.
Sagittarius’s worldview is philosophical and exists within the parameters of logic and reason. Cancer’s outlook is often subjective and colored by her intense emotions.
If Cancer can get past Sagittarius’s penchant for telling harsh truths, he or she will bask in the sunny warmth of the archer. Sagittarians are contagiously optimistic and adventurous, and their presence lightens the hearts of Cancers, who are predisposed to melancholy by feminine night forces and the waning of the moon, among other nuances of nature and humanity.
Cancer relates to the world on an emotional level and Sag on a philosophical level. Cancer is moved by the passionate enthusiasm with which Sagittarius pursues his lofty ideals, setting his life on fire. The crab is also moved by Sagittarius’s generous heart and the way he/she always shares his good fortune. Even if you envy a Sag’s stalwart faith in his own good luck, which seems to be a self-fulfilling prophecy, how could you hate such an untainted soul?
COMPATIBILITY RATING: 5 OUT OF 10
The quality and longevity of this relationship depends largely on whether the crab is secure within himself. When Cancers’ lives are eclipsed by fear, which can be the case in early youth into adulthood, their sharp pincher grasp clings to the past. However, a Cancer who is secure in who he/she is can let Sagittarius in and learn from him. Initially, Sag may see Cancer as a puzzle to solve.
However, if he plans on solving this particular mystery, he needs to make sure Cancer is more than a puzzle to him. Drawing a Cancer out of her shell until she reveals her emotional core is only a wise idea if Sag truly loves the crab. If not, his actions are the equivalent of gambling a human soul. Most Sagittarians are honest, straightforward people who would never do that intentionally and will heed this advice.
Jupiter’s expansion means that Sag is a freedom-loving being – a bright star who burns through the night, shedding light and warmth on Cancer’s world. However, Sag shouldn’t become so outwardly focused that he forgets to nurture the intimacy that crackles in the fireplace at home, where Cancer is waiting with open arms and a home-cooked meal. (Male Cancers often love to cook as much as the females do.)
Neglected Cancers retreat into their shells and experience long bouts of depression before they gather up the strength to find a more compatible partner.
Also, let’s not forget Cancer’s cardinal leadership status, which manifests itself as possessiveness when insecure. Even without possessiveness, Cancer love is immersive. It goes as deep as love can go. A crab wants to feel as if an invisible cord connects him to his lover at the soul level. If they truly connect, Sagittarius might feel the same cord, but resist the pull of it a lot more than Cancer does.
COMPATIBILITY RATING: 4 OUT OF 10
If these two get married, it usually means they’ve accepted each other for who they are and prioritized their love. Or it means that they’re delusional and loving blindly, which could be disastrous for both of them.
But Cancer does bring out Sagitttarius’s huge heart, and Sagittarius is a bright spot in Cancer’s world. Also, both Cancer and Sagittarius are intensely romantic. For Sagittarius, whose dreams are larger than life, Cancer represents a long-held dream. This is a dream of forever love that sweeps her off her feet and into the majesty of romance.
However, in order to keep their fire alive for the years to come, they need to find some middle ground. This is not to say that either of them should compromise or give up who they are. In some cases, Cancers might take that martyred role. However, this is not without their resentment spilling over into every nook and cranny of Sagittarius’s life.
That’s why it’s important for Sagittarius to shower the Ccab with sincere compliments, cushion her with emotional security, and take her with him when he adventures into the unknown.
In turn, Cancer would be wise not to make Sag’s home feel like an anchor. If the crab gives his Sagittarian lover enough room to roam free, occupying all the physical, metaphorical, and philosophical places she must, the archer will always find her way home.
COMPATIBILITY RATING: 4 OUT OF 10
Clear, open communication is one of the keys to happiness for relationships between crabs and archers. As Sagittarians read this, they’re probably nodding their head in agreement. Sagittarians are generally honest people who pride themselves on their straightforwardness.
Still, they shouldn’t start patting themselves on the backs just yet. When it comes to these subtle, nocturnal creatures whose delicate moods wax and wane with the moon, Sagittarius needs to exercise sensitivity. That doesn’t mean compromising or sugarcoating the truth; it just means that it’s best to cushion it with warmth and affection if they want receptiveness.
To effectively communicate with archers, crabs need to be more forthcoming, open, and honest about their feelings (and everything else). Every crab needs space to deal with their moon-ruled ups and downs, and Sag has no problem giving people space.
But when something is truly bothering Cancers, they need to speak up instead of retreating into a hard shell. Unlike Scorpios or perhaps Pisces, Sagittarians won’t necessarily sense Cancer’s moods. The fact is, Sag is usually a more distant lover than Cancer. Still, his warmth and huge heart make him rather like a teddy bear, which conjures childhood innocence to Cancer throughout their entire relationship.
COMPATIBILITY RATING: 2 OUT OF 10
SEX AND INTIMACY
Cancer needs a lover who will float with her out to sea, submerging himself in the endless depth of her love. Sagittarius may see Cancer’s love as a journey he/she wants to take, but eventually surface from and go on his merry way.
This doesn’t necessarily mean Sag would leave his/her Cancer lover, but it might mean that their ideas of intimacy are different. Sagittarius’s strong, fiery passions make Cancer feel like a moth caught in a flame, which is exactly how Cancer wants to feel. More often than not, the archer may take a teaching role in sex, with Cancer as the willing student.
Sagittarius is typically not the most subtle lover and may miss the mark with Cancer a few times before getting it right. Cancer is a creature of subtlety and wants every touch to mean something. Sex with a Cancer male or female is unpredictable, as the crab’s moods fluctuate with the cycles of the moon. Sagittarians may be unsettled by this at times, but also see it as an exciting challenge. In many ways, Cancer is a mystery Sagittarius will never fully solve, and it’s this very predicament that may addict him to her.
COMPATIBILITY RATING: 3 OUT OF 10
CANCER/SAGITTARIUS COMPATIBILITY PROS:
- Cancer fulfills Sagittarius’s romantic ideals, which is no small feat.
- Sagittarius opens the world up to Cancer, who might be too internalized to fully explore the beauty of the outside world. Sag brings to life the wonders of the natural world, city life, and everything in between.
- Sagittarius’s objectivity brings clarity to Cancer, whose perceptions are often colored by emotions.
CANCER/SAGITTARIUS COMPATIBILITY CONS:
- Sag is freedom-loving. If Cancer gets too moody and possessive, Sagittarius’s bright fire might be extinguished over a long period of time
- Sagittarians can lack the kind of subtle, perceptive sensitivity Cancer needs in a lover or even close friendship.
- Cancer can be emotionally manipulative at times, and Sagittarius absolutely cannot tolerate this quality in others.
Summary of Cancer and Sagittarius
Despite their differences (or perhaps because of their differences), relationships between Cancers and Sagittarians can yield tremendous growth.
Cancer helps Sagittarius learn more about his own emotional depths, needs, and desires. In turn, extroverted Sagittarius opens new doors for Cancer. If the crab is open enough, they can explore new ways of living and thinking; Sagittarians always need to be exploring new ways of living and thinking.
However, Sagittarius needs to build and nurture a home base where the roots of their love can grow. Only by growing intimacy and trust does Cancer open up to Sagittarius’s new ideas and set off into the sunset with him.
OVERALL COMPATIBILITY RATING: 3 OUT OF 10